Healing from infidelity requires expert care in every facet of both personal and marital restoration. However, a nebulous area of healing can be found in addressing childhood wounds like neglect, abuse, and abandonment. Without an understanding of what wounds and pain we've experienced as children, we can find that the timeline for us is not only confusing, but also longer and more erratic. When we tap into the help of true trauma experts who have been through their own timeline of infidelity and childhood trauma, we not only find light at the end of the tunnel, but a concrete explanation of what's happening inside of us. Today you'll meet Amanda, a trauma expert of precisely this kind who shares practical and life-changing information about how to address our childhood wounds, and how they continue to affect our attempts to heal from infidelity...
Today, eight years after disclosure and discovery (D-Day), in celebration of completing ten episodes, totalling over 10,000 views - Rodney and Angela present to us a raw, uncut, unplugged, and unleashed ‘Songs for the Soul’ experience! From start to finish, there’s no telling what will happen between these two. God’s grace has taken them from lamenting to laughter, and from turmoil to triumph. He has given them beauty for ashes. While we know there’s nothing funny about the trauma of infidelity, triggers, reminders, and betrayal - tune in for a little joy and laughter to brighten up your day. Scripture teaches that a merry heart does good like a medicine, but a broken spirit dries the bones (Proverbs 17:22). Well, in the world of recovery, we’ve all had plenty of dry bone experiences - every now and then,...
Have you ever had your unfaithful spouse blame you for their infidelity or addiction? Perhaps they've rattled off statements like "if you would have done your job, I wouldn't have had to go find love elsewhere?" Or, "if you didn't neglect me, I wouldn't have had to go somewhere else for attention, love, and sex." It's a coping mechanism the unfaithful uses to justify their actions, and one of the main problems with this thinking is that we, the unfaithful, think it's absolute truth. What's more truthful is the fact that we don't realize how unresolved childhood trauma affects the way we see our spouse, our infidelity and our recovery efforts. If we do not heal what so deeply traumatized us as a child, we'll miss out on a quality of life and recovery that, while it may seem elusive, is more joyful and rewarding than we can imagine. Join me...
Today, I came across a picture that was posted on our group's GroupMe wall a while back. A depiction of hope, a moment captured by a camera, a view of grace, healing, and growth, revealing a glimmer of rescue and new life. You've probably seen something like it, or the one I'm referring to, where determined little white flowers are growing out of a crack in an otherwise lifeless slab of concrete sidewalk.
At the time this was shared with me, and when I wrote this journal entry, feelings of hope finally started to emerge, much like the ray of light and the new life, emerging with these little flowers through the slab. Where my heart was once in a place consumed with hopelessness, absent of joy, with no healing in sight (to the human eye), time and faith now uncovered proof that change and healing were not only possible, but certain.
May this writing be a reminder to you, that a season of hope is emerging...
Many of the old hymns have a special place in our hearts. Today's song, "It Is Well," is no exception to that. The lyrics were penned by Horatio Spafford after tragedy suddenly struck his family. As you hear the story recounted along with the melodious tunes, may your burden be lifted and your load lighter. The trauma and weight of infidelity doesn't have to continue to suffocate you. As we sing over you, we're praying for supernatural peace - even in the midst of the storm. We know that grief comes in waves, but Jesus is still calming seas and walking on water. Storms will come and go, but you have a Savior that promised never to leave you. He is with you in the storm and offers peace that surpasses all understanding. May your heart find solace and comfort as the hymnist graciously declares: Whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to say, It is...
Finding survivors of either their own infidelity or their spouse's, who are also willing to publicly talk about their story, is no easy task. From the public shame, to the fear of being known for such painful life choices, to the uneasiness of telling your story in public, it's just not easy. Today you'll get to know Stephanie, a fearless survivor of her husband's infidelity, addiction, and child out of wedlock. As we talk, you'll hear a down to earth, "I'm not superwoman; I'm just someone who did the work" approach. After the infidelity came to light, she realized she had choices, and she chose to take a bold step toward her husband as he threw himself into his own recovery work. Today, Stephanie hopes to encourage those who find themselves in this awful position with a few tips that worked for her in the earlier days of her journey. No magic...
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Being loved is a hard concept to grasp when our dreams lie shattered around us, and the God whom we thought loved us, has let them shatter.
Vaneetha Risner
If the title of this blog gave the impression that I have the answer to this question, I want to let you know up front that I don't. I am still in the trenches and I wrestle with this often. I wondered if someone else might too, so I decided to talk about it. Faith is such a personal journey, so I can only offer what has been my experience, and in no way do I assume others will necessarily see or feel it the same way. Maybe this conversation can validate your experience if this is an area in which you have struggled, or are still struggling. Maybe you have figured it out and can share a comment...
Here is a quick audio version of the song: A Husband's Prayer
As husbands, we have the unique privilege of covering our wives in prayer. Whether they are the hurt spouse, the unfaithful one, or even both - they need someone fighting for the good of their heart, soul, and mind. And make no mistake about it, all wives need prayer, including yours. Today we offer up a prayer in song petitioning God for their blessing and healing. We also pray for God to teach us to love them as Christ loves His bride, the Church. He modeled His love when He gave His life for her on an old rugged cross. True love requires sacrifice - blood, sweat, and tears. With this love, according to Ephesians 5 and 1 Peter 3, we learn to dwell with them and honor them as the precious gifts from God that they are. Because of our inherent sinfulness and selfishness,...
Trying to heal from your partner's affair, or your own, can seem like an impossible task. But what about when there is a child from an affair? What if they are a sex addict? What if you don't feel like you even love your partner now? While all hard-hitting, complicated questions, I am happy to tell you there are answers. Oftentimes, we believe people who have actually healed from seemingly impossible pain and trauma are better answers than mere words. Today you'll meet heroes of ours at affairrecovery.com: Mickey and Stephanie. We are confident that after hearing just some of their story and seeing the palpable joy in both their hearts, that there is hope for your own healing and restoration.
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