Affair Recovery

When I first heard this statement I thought it was dumb and much too simple. It was almost insulting – like trying to treat an intensive care wound with a band aid.

However, ten long months into recovery, this statement has been a foundational thought in getting through many hard days.

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Samuel shares the proper motivation for recovery work after infidelity for both spouses.

Samuel shares his own experience in adjusting to life after disclosure and embracing new patterns in life.

Samuel shares his own experience in adjusting to life after disclosure and embracing new patterns in life.

Samuel discusses how defensiveness diminishes safety from the recovery process.

Samuel discusses a major paradigm shift in recovering from infidelity or addiction.

Samuel answers a viewers question on why the unfaithful will often times withdraw in recovery work.

Hide and seek. This is a game my kids play for hours, even now as teenagers. There is such terror and anxiety in the moments you are waiting but the best part of the whole game is the feeling you get when you are found. I remember when my girls were little and would find great hiding spots. They were so excited they would often yell out, “I’m in here, come find me!” I often wonder why the game was so delightful for them. I’m guessing it had something to do with the smile...

Samuel shares pivotal insight on how to navigate the transition of recovery work.

Who is your confidant? Who do you reach out to when you need to talk? Not just for friendly chit-chats about the latest movie or daily frustrations over child care. But who do you pour out your heart to when you're sad, lonely, scared or angry? More importantly, who listens to your deepest fears, heartache and pain over the betrayal you're living with?

Have you found a confidant that you trust, that special someone who is there when you need to cry, mourn, yell or just sit and be held?

Susan was that...

Samuel shares a story form his own journey about healing his heart.

Samuel discusses several points on why infidelity has a 'spill over' affect.

Samuel discusses the topic of unforgiveness from the unfaithful spouse's perspective.

Samuel explains why many betrayed spouses feel stuck later in recovery, even after expert help.