Affair Recovery

Samuel shares insight into a dark moment early on in recovery and how to make it through similar dark moments in the recovery process.

Samuel answers a question from a viewer on what if my spouse doesn't respond to boundaries.

Samuel shares practical insight into how to handle and resist triggers in recovery.

As I wrote in my previous blog article, “Is He Worth It?” my husband is capable of both enormous deception and immense change. So the other day when he contributed to a trigger I could have sat and fumed about why I put up with his actions. But instead I did something that I’ve been doing for three years post D-day. I acted intentionally. After asking myself for the hundredth time why I put up with him I then answered myself for the hundredth time with my personal recovery mantra:

My husband is worth another chance.

My husband is capable of great change.

I’m stronger than I think, braver than I...

Samuel offers perspective into handling and processing fear as an unfaithful or betrayed spouse.

Samuel shares insight into why the unfaithful spouse is angry and how to process through it.

Sex and intimacy are such big topics and it seems all couples struggle with one or both in some way. Couples that say they don’t struggle in either area are either the rare exception or more likely, they are not giving you the full story. 

My wife and I always struggled with sex, me wanting it all the time, her not so much. She has always struggled with enjoying sex. She can never seem to relax enough to get any enjoyment. In fact, our sex struggle was one of the reasons for her affair. She thought that maybe she had just married the wrong guy and that maybe sex with someone else would be...

Samuel shares factors which prevent the betrayed spouse from trusting again.

Yes? Congratulations!!

Bet you didn’t expect that statement after revealing what felt like your spouse tearing your heart out of your chest and stomping on it, did you?

I remember back to D-Day, the devastation, the uncertainty, and the pain. I remember vomiting until there was nothing left to vomit. I remember the hopelessness. I remember the suicidal thoughts.

I remember the advice and guidance. God told me to forgive. My friends told me to dump the skank and go get laid. My parents told me to protect the children. My pastor told me to pray. My lawyer told me to preserve evidence....

Samuel does a follow up to his first video on his journey to faith, addressing disappointment.

John Gray wrote Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus in 1992 and subtitled it “A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationship.” The book highlights the differences between the way men and women respond to stress and stressful situations. With more than 50 million copies sold Gray obviously hit on something at the heart of relationship problems:

Men and women think, react and respond differently.

The truth of that fact was front and center for me on D-day and in the months and years since. I would be screaming in anger and pain while my husband would...

Samuel shares more about he and Samantha's past and how early on, he was terrified of himself.

Samuel discusses how soon to get to expert help after discovering infidelity in your relationship.

Samuel tackles the misconception that since recovery is a noble thing to do, it should be easy.