Discovery: Why do I Want to Know? Last week we kicked off our discussion on disclosure and the processing of details by giving you an example of our protocol right from our Free First Steps Bootcamp for Surviving Infidelity. Today I’d like to follow up with that discussion and present three compelling questions every betrayed spouse must use as a litmus test to finding out new information in recovery. They are as follows: Why do I want to know? How will it help me (us) move forward? Am I asking a comparison question which will only keep me stuck? These are key elements to the process of disclosure and understanding what has happened. Without a key understanding of general details of the affair(s) or addiction, it’s likely the betrayed spouse will not be able to heal and recommit to the marriage or process of recovery. At the very least, they will not be able to successfully re-engage their spouse in the recovery process. However, as you’ll hear from me today, there is a moment where you understand the betrayed spouse has found out ‘enough information’ to move forward in recovery, despite the need to ask more questions. *Please note* in my video today I’m not referencing the couple where the spouse continues to withhold information and refuses to share details of their affair(s) or addiction. I thought it best to go into the studio to discuss these three questions and I hope my explanation will foster not only healing, but a commitment on the side of both spouses to engage one another in a process oriented approach to personal restoration. Get started now with our free First Steps Bootcamp for Surviving Infidelity, . If you need help repairing the damage infidelity or addiction has caused you both, consider our EMS Weekend. It’s a life saver for those in crisis. Please know our weekend is dedicated to the recovery of BOTH spouses in the marriage. While the unfaithful needs help understanding their own road to recovery and relapse prevention, the betrayed spouse needs critical care for trauma, understanding how to trust again and their own pathway to forgiveness. Sections: NewsletterFounder's LaptopFree ResourcesHot Off the PressRL_Category: Emotional RegulationHandling DiscoveryRecovery FundamentalsSafety in RecoveryRL_Media Type: Text