I have found a really good counselor, but I have to drive three hours one way to find a good infidelity trauma EMDR counselor of course it’s in another state so my insurance won’t pay for it but I really know I need this so I’m willing to do whatever it takes to get to the other side. My husband has of course admitted that this really is his biological adult. Thank you for answering. I did feel a little crazy at first because this was so much to unpack. Not just the secrecy from 39 years ago but I was more than shocked to find out he had been unfaithful, and it produced this young lady. As you said in the pod cast my miscarriages and dealing with all of that trauma was over the top. Things we think we have taken care of emotionally that is not the case, so here we go. I have asked him to join me in some of your resources he has yet to commit to so only time will tell. I feel as if I am doing this alone. Again, I am praying my way through God has given me several answers and again the one thing is when I asked why? why he did remind me that my husband had free will, he could’ve stopped himself at any time from taking her home to committing adultery and he chose not to but again after 39 years this comes out it really still stings. I’m trying to figure my way forward and thank goodness for Molly my new counselor because I think that she’s a God send. I prayed for a good counselor, I was working out of state and a friend just forwarded me her number. I prayed about it and then put it off for an hour or so. Then God kept nudging me. I texted her and she had a cancellation the next morning, so I know this is all God‘s hand. Thank you guys at Affair recovery for being there. I do understand that there weren’t always podcast and it is hard for some people maybe to watch them learn or glean from what you guys have gone through. It is also being open to receive your messages. as I move forward, I also can see that this is going to be used for a greater good and again, I have to admit it was my husband and this other woman who committed sin the young lady who came from the two of them and their act, is innocent. It’s still going to take a lot for me to do a meet and greet with her, her family and my husband. He would like to welcome her into the family and I think he’s pushing me a little too quickly, so I’m I’m going to listen to God, go at my own pace and hopefully our marriage will survive and be stronger on the other side. Thank you all for you kind words. I would not wish this on anyone to have to deal with or navigate. Blessings

My Fiancé has a lengthy history of being unfaithful in relationships- I’m concerned.