Below you will find many of the *books Rick and the other therapists recommend on a regular basis. We recommend leaders read these and also refer them to their groups as additional relevant education.

Betrayal

• Keep Walking: 40 Days to Hope and Freedom After Betrayal - A Devotional written by our own Survivors' Blogger, Lynn Cherry.
• Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back by Stephen Arterburn and Jason B. Martinkus.
• Not Just Friends by Shirley P. Glass.
• The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Recovering from Affairs by Peggy Vaughan.
• Healing Your Marriage When Trust is Broken by Cindy Beall.
• Rebuilding a Marriage Better than New by Cindy Beall.
• Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy by Frank Pittman.
• When Godly People do Ungodly Things by Beth Moore.
• After the Affair by Janis A. Spring.
• Unfaithful: Hope and Healing After Infidelity by Gary and Mona Shriver.
• Rescued: A woman's guide to surviving and thriving after sexual betrayal by Shelley S. Martinkus.
• Should I Stay or go?: How Controlled Separation (CS) Can Save Your Marriage by Lee Raffel.
• Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love by Dorothy Tennov.
• Sailing Home: Using the Wisdom of Homer's Odyssey to Navigate Life's Perils and Pitfalls by Norman Fischer.
• A Fierce Love: One Woman's Courageous Journey to Save Her Marriage by Shauna Shanks.

Marriage

• Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud and John Townsend (used in Married for Life following EMSO/EMSW courses).
• Love Must be Tough by James Dobson.
• Intimacy Ignited by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus.
• Restoring the Pleasure: Complete Step-by-Step Programs to Help Couples Overcome the Most Common Sexual Barriers by Clifford L. Penner and Joyce J. Penner.
• Crucial Conversations by Patterson.
• Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski .
• Rekindling Desire by Barry and Emily McCarthy.
• What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal by John Gottman, Ph.D., and Nan Silver.
• Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel.
• Come as You Are:The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.
• The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples by John M. Gottman, Ph.D.
• The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm.

Shame

• Daring Greatly by Brené Brown, Ph.D., L.M.S.W.
• Shame Interrupted by Edward T. Welch.
• Healing the Hurts of Your Past: A Guide to Overcoming the Pain of Shame by F. Remy Diederich.
• The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown, Ph.D., L.M.S.W.

Forgiving

• How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To by Janis A. Spring, Ph.D., and Michael Spring.
• Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness by Frederic Luskin.
• Stuck: How to Overcome Your Anger and Reclaim Your Life by F. Remy Diederich.
• The Gift of Forgiveness by Charles Stanley.
• Forgiving What You Can't Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That's Beautiful Again by Lysa TerKeurst.
• Forgive and Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don't Deserve by Lewis B. Smedes.
• The New Freedom of Forgiveness by David Augsburger.
• Forgiving the Unforgivable by David A. Stoop, Ph.D.
• The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World by Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu.

Lust and Sexual Addiction

• Every Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker.
• Out of the Shadows by Patrick J. Carnes Ph.D.
• Surfing for God by Michael John Cusick.
• Addiction and Grace: Love and Spirituality in the Healing of Addictions by Gerald G. May.
• Understanding and Loving a Person with Sexual Addiction by Stephen Arterburn, Jason B. Martinkus, and Shelley S. Martinkus.
• Breathing Under Water: Spirituality and the Twelve Steps by Richard Rohr O.F.M.

Co-Dependency

• One-Way Relationships by Alfred Ells.
• When People Are Big and God is Small by Edward T. Welch.

Trauma

• The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van derk Kolk M.D.
• Healing Trauma by Peter A. Levine.
• Trauma and Memory: Brain and Body in a Search for the Living Past by Peter A. Levine Ph.D. and Bessel A. van der Kolk M.D.
• Brain Lock: Free Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior by Jeffrey M. Schwartz, M.D., with Beverly Beyette.
• The Complete Idiot's Guide to Conquering Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior by Bruce Mansbridge, Ph.D.
• Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual by Dan B. Allender, Ph.D., with Karen Lee-Thorp.
  • The Wounded Heart: A Companion Workbook for Personal or Group Use by Dan B. Allender, Ph.D., with Karen Lee-Thorp.

Spiritual Growth

• Strong Women, Soft Hearts by Paula Rinehart.
• The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck.
• The People of the Lie by M. Scott Peck.
• Abba's Child: The Cry of the Heart for Intimate Belonging by Brennan Manning.
• Wild at Heart by John Eldredge.
• From Wild Man to Wise Man: Reflections on Male Spirituality by Richard Rohr O.F.M. and Joseph Martos.
• Celebration of Discipline: The Path to Spiritual Growth by Richard J. Foster.
• Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis.

Parenting

• Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive by Daniel J. Siegel.
• Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child The Heart of Parenting by Ph.D. John Gottman (Author), Joan Declaire (Author), Daniel Goleman (Foreword).
• The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel.
• Families Where Grace Is in Place: Building a Home Free of Manipulation, Legalism and Shame by Jeff VanVonderen.

Uncategorized

• Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David D. Burns M.D.
• The Grief Recovery Handbook by John W. James & Russell Friedman.
• Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen.
• King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine by Robert Moore and Doug Gillette.
• Internal Family Systems Therapy, Second Edition by Richard Schwartz and Martha Sweezy.
• Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help Our Kids, Ourselves, and Our Society Thrive by Marc Brackett, Ph.D.
• Healing for Damaged Emotions by David Seamands.
• Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl.
• The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Restoring the Character Ethic by Stephen R. Covey.
• Changing for Good: A Revolutionary Six-Stage Program for Overcoming Bad Habits and Moving Your Life Positively Forward by James O. Prochaska, Ph.d., John c. Norcross, Ph.d., and Carlo C. DiClemte, Ph.D.
• The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business by Charles Duhigg.
• A Million Miles in a Thousand Years: What I Learned While Editing My Life by Donald Miller.
• Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change by William R. Miller and Stephen Rollnick.
• Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box by the Arbinger Institute.

*Note: We hope you find these resources helpful. If you decide to purchase a book using a link on this page, Affair Recovery may collect a share of the sales or other compensation.