Additional Resources Below you will find many of the *books and other resources Rick and the other therapists recommend on a regular basis. We recommend leaders read these and also refer them to their groups as additional relevant education. Betrayal Keep Walking: 40 Days to Hope and Freedom After Betrayal - A Devotional written by our own Survivors' Blogger, Lynn Cherry. Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back by Stephen Arterburn and Jason B. Martinkus. Not Just Friends by Shirley P. Glass. The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Recovering from Affairs by Peggy Vaughan. Healing Your Marriage When Trust is Broken by Cindy Beall. Rebuilding a Marriage Better than New by Cindy Beall. Private Lies: Infidelity and the Betrayal of Intimacy by Frank Pittman. When Godly People do Ungodly Things by Beth Moore. After the Affair by Janis A. Spring. Unfaithful: Hope and Healing After Infidelity by Gary and Mona Shriver. Rescued: A woman's guide to surviving and thriving after sexual betrayal by Shelley S. Martinkus. Should I Stay or go?: How Controlled Separation (CS) Can Save Your Marriage by Lee Raffel. Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love by Dorothy Tennov. Sailing Home: Using the Wisdom of Homer's Odyssey to Navigate Life's Perils and Pitfalls by Norman Fischer. A Fierce Love: One Woman's Courageous Journey to Save Her Marriage by Shauna Shanks. The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel. Living with limerence: A guide for the smitten by Dr. L Marriage Boundaries in Marriage by Henry Cloud and John Townsend (used in Married for Life following EMSO/EMSW courses). Love Must be Tough by James Dobson. Intimacy Ignited by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus. Restoring the Pleasure: Complete Step-by-Step Programs to Help Couples Overcome the Most Common Sexual Barriers by Clifford L. Penner and Joyce J. Penner. Crucial Conversations by Patterson. Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski . Rekindling Desire by Barry and Emily McCarthy. What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal by John Gottman, Ph.D., and Nan Silver. Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel. The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples by John M. Gottman, Ph.D. The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm. The Couple's Guide to Intimacy: How Sexual Reintegration Therapy Can Help Your Relationship Heal by Dr. Bill Bercaw CSAT CST and Dr. Ginger Bercaw CSAT CST. The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work by Terry Real. The Intimacy Factor: The Ground Rules for Overcoming the Obstacles to Truth, Respect, and Lasting Love by Pia Mellody. Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love by Helen Fisher, Ph.D. Shame Daring Greatly by Brené Brown, Ph.D., L.M.S.W. Shame Interrupted by Edward T. Welch. Healing the Hurts of Your Past: A Guide to Overcoming the Pain of Shame by F. Remy Diederich. The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown, Ph.D., L.M.S.W. Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem by Matthew McKay. Forgiving How Can I Forgive You? The Courage to Forgive, the Freedom Not To by Janis A. Spring, Ph.D., and Michael Spring. Forgive for Good: A Proven Prescription for Health and Happiness by Frederic Luskin. Stuck: How to Overcome Your Anger and Reclaim Your Life by F. Remy Diederich. The Gift of Forgiveness by Charles Stanley. Forgiving What You Can't Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That's Beautiful Again by Lysa TerKeurst. Forgive and Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don't Deserve by Lewis B. Smedes. The New Freedom of Forgiveness by David Augsburger. Forgiving the Unforgivable by David A. Stoop, Ph.D. The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World by Desmond Tutu and Mpho Tutu. Forgiving and Reconciling: Bridges to Wholeness and Hope by Everett L. Worthington. Lust and Sexual Addiction Every Man's Battle by Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker. Out of the Shadows by Patrick J. Carnes Ph.D. Surfing for God by Michael John Cusick. Addiction and Grace: Love and Spirituality in the Healing of Addictions by Gerald G. May. Understanding and Loving a Person with Sexual Addiction by Stephen Arterburn, Jason B. Martinkus, and Shelley S. Martinkus. Breathing Under Water: Spirituality and the Twelve Steps by Richard Rohr O.F.M. In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction by Gabor Maté, MD and Peter A. Levine, Ph.D. Don't Call it Love: Recovery from Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes. Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer. Co-Dependency One-Way Relationships by Alfred Ells. When People Are Big and God is Small by Edward T. Welch. Trauma The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van derk Kolk M.D. Healing Trauma by Peter A. Levine. Trauma and Memory: Brain and Body in a Search for the Living Past by Peter A. Levine Ph.D. and Bessel A. van der Kolk M.D. Brain Lock: Free Yourself from Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior by Jeffrey M. Schwartz, M.D., with Beverly Beyette. The Complete Idiot's Guide to Conquering Obsessive-Compulsive Behavior by Bruce Mansbridge, Ph.D. Wounded Heart: Hope for Adult Victims of Childhood Sexual by Dan B. Allender, Ph.D., with Karen Lee-Thorp. The Wounded Heart: A Companion Workbook for Personal or Group Use by Dan B. Allender, Ph.D., with Karen Lee-Thorp. [Documentary] The Wisdom of Trauma: Can our deepest pain be a doorway to healing? Featuring Dr. Gabor Maté. Limited Time Free Access Viewing Official Film Page Spiritual Growth Strong Women, Soft Hearts by Paula Rinehart. The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck. The People of the Lie by M. Scott Peck. Abba's Child: The Cry of the Heart for Intimate Belonging by Brennan Manning. Wild at Heart by John Eldredge. From Wild Man to Wise Man: Reflections on Male Spirituality by Richard Rohr O.F.M. and Joseph Martos. Celebration of Discipline: The Path to Spiritual Growth by Richard J. Foster. Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis. Parenting Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive by Daniel J. Siegel. Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child The Heart of Parenting by Ph.D. John Gottman (Author), Joan Declaire (Author), Daniel Goleman (Foreword). The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel. Families Where Grace Is in Place: Building a Home Free of Manipulation, Legalism and Shame by Jeff VanVonderen. Building Good Habits The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Restoring the Character Ethic by Stephen R. Covey. Changing for Good: A Revolutionary Six-Stage Program for Overcoming Bad Habits and Moving Your Life Positively Forward by James O. Prochaska, Ph.d., John c. Norcross, Ph.d., and Carlo C. DiClemte, Ph.D. The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business by Charles Duhigg. Mastery: The Keys to Success and Long-Term Fulfillment by George Leonard. Emotional Well Being Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David D. Burns M.D. The Grief Recovery Handbook by John W. James & Russell Friedman. Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help Our Kids, Ourselves, and Our Society Thrive by Marc Brackett, Ph.D. Healing for Damaged Emotions by David Seamands. Leadership Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change by William R. Miller and Stephen Rollnick. Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box by the Arbinger Institute. Uncategorized Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen. King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine by Robert Moore and Doug Gillette. Internal Family Systems Therapy, Second Edition by Richard Schwartz and Martha Sweezy. Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl. A Million Miles in a Thousand Years: What I Learned While Editing My Life by Donald Miller. *Note: We hope you find these resources helpful. If you decide to purchase a book using a link on this page, Affair Recovery may collect a share of the sales or other compensation.