Q&A Am I Being Enabling?

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My wife is in limerence. We are 4 months post D-Day, lots of trickle truth and she totally ignored the “No Contact” agreement since day 1. Last week her affair partner called it quits and found someone else. She is now heartbroken and depressed. I understand that she has to grieve the loss of the affair partner. I hate that but I can conceptually understand it. Twice I have held her to comfort her while she was uncontrollably crying about losing the affair partner. That hurt like hell but I remember after D-Day crying so hard that I was exhausted after and not having anyone for support. So I didn’t want her to be alone. I think it was the right thing to do for her even though my heart was being ripped out of my chest. But I find myself angry afterwards. Am I being a good husband or am I enabling?



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