Q&A Can We Heal Without Counseling or Other Work After Their Affair?

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My husband had a deeply emotional and sexual affair that ended about 7 months ago. We recently started going to a therapist (who specializes in men's issues)but my husband has now decided that we can not continue therapy. He says we can't afford it (we just keep putting it on our credit card) because our insurance doesn't cover any of it. He also says he does not like going because he feels like our counselor is judgmental toward him. He is always miserable after we leave counseling because he hates talking about his feelings and he thinks the counselor doesn't like him.We have only been to therapy 4 times and it has been helpful so far (because the counselor gave us excersises to do together). But, now I feel stuck because he doesn't want to go anymore. I don't know how to navigate through all this pain and confusion with out help. He won't do EMSO either. But to my husbands credit, he has been doing things to build my trust and show empathy. How can a couple go about healing with out counseling? Is it even possible to heal with out counseling? Thank you for all your hard work.



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