Q&A How do I Get my Spouse to Understand my Need for Full Disclosure? The Affair is Ongoing.

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I understand that for my healing process, I am in need of my husband's full disclosure of the affair. However, the relationship with his mistress still continues and it's nearly impossible for me to have any conversations with my husband. He rejects me, blocks my phone calls and doesn't allow me to ask him anything regarding our relationship much less the affair. He gets upset, even uses verbal abuse. I've asked him to please get past the bitterness and to act civil in our conversations but he blames me for not being able to accomplish that. My question is, "How can I ask him to fully disclose the details of the affair in a way that I get him to understand how much I need this? How can I phrase it without him feeling attacked? I'm having a hard time thinking of the right words to use so that I can get him to be sympathetic towards me. Thank you. God Bless your ministry.



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