Q&A How Do I Live with a Spouse That Is Grieving the Affair Partner?

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My wife is grieving her affair partner. It has been over 3 months now. She had known their relationship was wrong the whole time so she had tried breaking up with him 5-6 times. He always cried and it kept going. Finally he abruptly ended it. She wanted it to end on better terms. She wants closure from him and more answers. Now she grieves the rejection and the loss of the love she had with him. How do I practically live with her while she is missing him? She says she loves me and is committed to me and just needs to grieve. She says she will love me more and more as time goes on. But right now she is missing him and crying over him and not able to really give a lot towards my or our recovery. It is so maddening and hurtful beyond understanding to be in this place. How do I live each day? Can I help in her moving away from him?



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