We can never be unconditionally loved if we only let the other conditionally know us oh, wow I love that inspiring quote by Leslie. So true I can empathize with this question, my husband is in a swirl of shame I know it more than he does. He sits silently every time I speak about my pain, and does not answer emails or questions anymore, regarding the affairs. He to wants to move on and let the past be the past oh, that does not work for the person who was betrayed oh, it will only build a wall of bitterness. As Leslie and John said it is hard to forgive something you don't know impossible.