Q&A Now That Harboring Hope Is over Do We Tell Our Family or Friends about the Infidelity?

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I just completed Harboring Hope and my wife completed Hope for Healing. I discovered my wife's affair in Feb. 2016. My wife and I decided that we were going to try and reconcile but we were not going to tell the children, family or friends. I’ve been with my wife for 30 years, not only did I find out about the most recent affair but after the first week of her class and two more D-Days later she told me about multiple affairs scattered over the course of our 30 years together going all the way back to when we first started dating. We’re in a completely different place then before we started AR and we owe it all to you guys and the hard work we’re both putting into all the information given to us. My question is now that our classes are over and we don't have our weekly call to talk to our mentor and group, should we tell our family and/or friends so we have someone to talk to about it? The reason we didn't tell family and friends is because we didn't want to be swayed one way or another and if we told them we would have to tell our children for the fear of them finding out from someone else. We have read that ordinary people who maybe haven't been through this can give some really bad advice and to be honest we really are not ready to tell our children yet.



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