Q&A What Boundaries Should We Set with the Opposite Sex?

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My husband had sexual affair 25 years ago which lasted 5 months. He confessed at time, but said it was 2 times, not 5 months. We had been married 10 years with 3 kids. I was devastated. We got counseling. We had great marriage after that. 10 years ago I saw him flirting with secretary. I caught him in many lies regarding several women. If I brought it up he got extremely angry. Fast forward to now. We've attended EMS weekend, and both have completed the individual classes. He has admitted to flirting, pimping/grooming, lying, confessed to all details of sex affair 25 years ago, much more than times. He's done polygraph. We live in small town. He is well known. I'm learning he was friends with many women in this town that I don't know. I hate that he has these friendships with women I don't know. He's changed now but his old personality was extremely flirtatious and he is very good looking. He gave women the impression they were more than business acquaintances. I can tell by the way they react when they see him. When we see these women now, I want him to ignore and avoid them. He thinks it's ok to say hello and be "Christian-like". Any advice about this?



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