Q&A What Should My Response Be When He Is Ambivalent or Hostile toward God?

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We are 12 weeks out from discovery. My spouse has been involved in porn most of his life, and it came out on D-Day a one year affair this last year, plus a shorter affair several years ago. He was raised christian and our faith had been foundational to our marriage, I thought. Now in addition to his ambivalence toward me he is being ambivalent about whether he believes in God and whether his faith led him down the path toward the chaos we’re now facing. He thinks believing God had a plan for his life and that doing the “right thing” would bring him what he wanted in life. We were young when we married and he had no sexual partners before me. He does have a history of childhood trauma. I am trying to give him space and not interfere with his recovery. He is seeing a psychologist and is in week 3 of Hope for Healing. I pray for him and pray God will turn his heart toward him. But I sense he has not really submitted to God and fully repented. My feeling is it probably took him four years to drift this far and may take a while to come back. What can I do in the meantime other than pray and give him space?



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