Q&A What Steps Can I Take to Learn to Trust Again?

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The rational side of me can see that my husband is doing everything right to recommit to me and our relationship. He has disengaged completely from 3 out of 4 affair partners, and the last one he only has contact with for work. He shared all his passwords. He no longer takes his phone or iPad everywhere with him. He's accountable for his whereabouts; he tells me immediately when the one affair partner contacts him for business purposes. He is showing up emotionally, trying to work on his own character challenges to be able to be present. He is supporting me through my pain. He listens. He asks questions that show me he understands the pain he has caused. My feeling of safety is growing, yet somehow I cannot quiet this voice in me that tells me it is not safe to trust. I am trying to follow the evidence. Rationally, it tells me things are ok. But then I ask, do I have all the evidence? Is it just a matter of time, him continuing to prove to me over and over again that I have no reason to doubt, or am I destined to always have a part of me that simply will never completely trust my husband again?



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