Q&A When do I Say I'm Moving On?

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Hello, I am nearly 5 months from the date of discovering that my husband of 8 years was involved in an affair. We are 29 and 30 years old with no kids yet, thankfully. Over the past 5 months my husband has been unclear about what he wants. He has waffled back and forth between wanting to stay and work on our marriage and not. I made it clear to him from DDay that I would be willing to work on reconciliation for the hope of a better than ever marriage. I have done what I felt are steps in the right direction (opening communication/dialogue with him, maintaining peace in the home, reading books in infidelity, counseling, HH course, seeking godly counsel, etc.) I feel he has done nothing to show commitment (other than staying in another room in our house since he refuses to leave our home though I’ve asked for physical separation) and he still can't seem to clearly express what he wants. I am wondering if you can offer some insight into how long this state of unknown, lingering, waffling typically lasts. I am just so unsure about when to say to him that I have done what I can but you are not putting in the effort to commit so I need to move on. Thanks

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