Question I am almost 4 1/2 years past D Day 1, almost 4 years past D Day 2, almost 3 years past D day 3, and almost 2 years past DDay 4. I still feel like I have gotten nowhere. I think and again I say I think the affairs is over even though he and she still work in the same place as they did while they were having an affair. I just don't know. We have done some counseling and have gone through a seminar put on by the "Beyond Affair Network" and none of it has been his idea and has b…