Q&A Will My Spouse Come Around or is it Time to End it After the Affair?

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Are There Indicators Husband May Start to Come Around or May it be “Time”?

D-Day was Feb.2015, discovered by me, tried couples therapy ending Dec.2015 where husband has “ZERO remorse”, no empathy for my pain “never gonna get it, not sorry”, disclosed nothing “will take this to his grave”, any evidence was from my spying he considers reason HE can’t trust me and continues to password protect everything. He feels “trapped, hates his life, counting the days to leave”, expects me to “get over it and move forward or PACK IT IN” (doesn’t say “divorce”—is there a reason?). He drinks 4-8 drinks a day and doesn’t see as an issue. Last month you mentioned anyone of these is a red flag but this is like a “slalom course”—thanks for the humor, it made me smile even though the reason for it was sad.

There have been some positive changes in his behavior and attempts at connection and I show appreciation for his efforts. He loses it and stonewalls at any mention of the affair or I seem anything less than positive. 

From all you know, are there any signs that he may be processing to accept and maybe one day admit the reality of his actions?, What is the psychology of the unfaithful this far in past D-Day (although maybe thwarted if still in contact with AP)? 

We are not Christian by appreciate all the AR and HH resources and your responses from a psychological perspective.



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