Q&A Will My Wife Ever Stop Blaming Me for Her Affair?

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My unfaithful wife....now ex-wife, has not stopped blaming me for her affair, has not stopped justifying her affair and will not speak to me about anything including matters concerning our children. D-Day for us was March 23rd, 2016. She filed for divorce 3 days later. She would not even remotely consider counseling or therapy or anything resembling the idea of restoration. She would not even talk about or listen to thoughts about it. To the best of my knowledge she has not sought the help of a mental health professional or therapist to this day. She abandoned our home and family and the responsibilities of being an adult by running away to Phoenix about a month and a half after D-Day. I had no choice but to sign the papers for her divorce this past January the 3rd, 2018 or I would be faced with losing more than half of everything we owned as a married couple including my family business, which would have forced me into bankruptcy. She is a high functioning alcoholic, sought treatment and worked a program for a couple of years 28 years ago, but has been drinking to varying degrees for the past 26 years claiming that she was “cured” and no longer needed the program. Alcoholism is a separate set of issues. I’m hoping that she can find the strength and the willingness to start working on something in her life that will allow her to want to seek peace and serenity. Until that happens, will she ever stop blaming me for her affair? Will she ever stop justifying her affair? Why does she continue doing these things?



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