Q&A Am I Living in Denial?

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My husband has a sexual addiction and visited several prostitutes before D Day of December, 2016. It was devastating and will take me some time to fully accept and handle this much pain. He has since been fully-committed and we have completed the EMS online course. I have been seeing a therapist for myself, and as we were discussing the infidelity, I was discussing my beliefs about who he is. I made the comment to her that these were his struggles, to which she corrected me and said, "No, this is WHO he is." I said well I felt these were his struggles, because in my heart I view him as God's child. She corrected me again and said, "No, THAT is who he is and the question you have to ask yourself is do you want to be married to THAT." She said it with compassion, but I guess my question is, am I living in denial, and not accepting the truth because I am viewing him as a human being who struggles with these issues? Or is it just that EMS has taught me to look beyond the sin to the person? I don't want to be duped again by believing the best in him and somehow be in denial. Thank you.



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