Q&A Are the Boundaries My Mate Has Placed on Our Conversations a Red Flag in Recovery?

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We are 5 months post d-day. The first 2 months he listened to my pain and would hold me while I wept 2-3 times a day, which would take 5-10 min each time. 5 minutes if he listened well and 10 minutes if he got defensive before deciding to listen. After 2 months my husband said I was asking for too much emotionally and he would no longer be with me when I was in pain during the day because it was unhealthy and interrupting his work. He also said that it was tearing him apart to have to do this. He will only discuss the affair from 8:15 -9:00 at night and this time slot is both for anything I want to share as well as our EMS homework. I feel like I am walking this out alone and see all of this as red flags in him. But he is telling me that the intensity of my pain and my desire for him to walk through it with me are red flags in me. What do you think?



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