Surviving Infidelity Series: Why Managing Your Partner’s Repair Work Doesn’t Work For couples who are attempting to heal after an affair, it's a common struggle that one partner feels the need to manage the other's recovery or repair work. Maybe this sounds familiar: "Are you reading? Did you go to therapy? Did you see that article I sent you? Did you talk to your accountability partner today? Did you watch that new video?" While a normal temptation, the result is typically immense frustration and disconnection by both parties, not to mention a feeling of being mothered or fathered to no end. No matter what side of the infidelity they are on, no one likes to feel controlled. The good news is, there is a better way. Today, Samuel shares insight into why the controlling approach doesn't work, and what to do if you're looking for help in this all too common scenario.