We are 4 months past D-day. My wife had the affair. She has been ambivalent and cold. We have had discovery talks, but there are things that don't make sense, so I think she is not being fully truthful. She has chosen not to talk to me about anything other than kids or schedules because she claims she has to protect herself from me. She says I am not safe and is saying things like I am abusing her physically and emotionally, which is not true. I am in Harboring Hope, workbook only. at our first combined counseling session, with a psychologist, she said she wants to leave but it would kill the kids. At this point, should I separate physically to allow myself freedom from the emotional neglect and work on getting clarity for myself?