Q&A Can He Be Safe for Me If He Continues to Use Porn?

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After affair discovery, I found out my husband has been using porn throughout our marriage (2-3 times per week). We have been married 18 years and he had a 7 year affair. He has ended the affair but is reluctant to end his use of porn. I really don't want my husband looking at porn for two reasons, the first being my empathy for the actors in the industry and the second I feel it has and continues to distract from our intimacy. I am also concerned he may be addicted to it and not recognize it as an addiction. He says he is not addicted but just likes the visual fantasy of it. Can he be safe for me if he continues to use porn?

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I'm sorry Rick, but I do not agree with this answer given to this woman. The real answer should have went something like this: If she is made to feel worse by this addicted (obvious) porn use, he should not be using porn. Most of your answers have been helpful, but this one seems to be rather counterintuitive to the rest of the sites ideals. She was reaching out for help with a problem that you can hear in her question, is quite devastating to her and I don't believe it was the answer she was hoping for.. It would not have helped me in any way to feel safe. If her husband should listen to this video, it gives him a free pass to use porn in their marriage when he has already been unfaithful. How does this help her? A little disappointed.. I must express!