Q&A Do I Have a Right to Contact the AP's Spouse?

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Hello Rick, I found out my wife when we were living together before we were married was having an affair with her Married employer. She has lied to me for 20 years making me believe that she did cheat on me during that time but it was with someone else who worked there that was single and it was only a few times. She now has admitted the affair took place for around 1 1/2 years and she has been in contact with this married man all through our marriage the last 16 years. He has asked to see her, offered her money if she decides divorce me, and even pay for flights and hotels to visit him as he now lives out of state. My wife during our marriage has visited him at the place of business and lied about it seeing him. I have no proof that she was unfaithful with him since we were married but I do suspect this to be true but she denies it. I believe his wife has no idea that her husband not only cheated on her but continues to communicate with my wife. I have contacted him and told him he needs to stop. He denies the affair and claims they are just friends. I feel his wife needs to know the whole story and also do not believe I have full disclosure. Do you think I have a right to protect my marriage and contact his wife? Thank you for your help



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