Q&A Do You Have Advice for Getting past This Roadblock in Our Recovery?

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We have completed Married for Life and hit a roadblock. I am doing a 12 step CODA program for my codependency and it’s helping me stand up for myself and be more honest about how I’m feeling. After being real about how I felt to my husband and saying I have a lot of issues within myself to work out as an unfaithful and a betrayed in my marriage, he seemed to take this personal. My husband feels my complete healing will only take place if we’re not together and said he thinks I’m better off healing when he’s not in the picture anymore because he’s blocking that healing. He feels I’m not working on the marriage and only hyper focused on my own healing. This hurts because when I was actually vulnerable and told him how the repeated hurts over the years have affected me, this was his response and I felt it wasn’t met with empathy. He said he’s here to support me, but how is that supportive? He’s not really doing much recovery work outside of listening to sermons and that’s scary for me. We have no money for marriage counseling at the moment but he doesn’t even take advantage of any of the resources he still has access to. I’m not sure of our future together. What are your thoughts as I’m a bit discouraged?



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