Q&A Is His Betrayal Too Much to Overcome, or Is There Really Hope?

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My husband and I have been married 24 years. Sadly, I thought we had a happy marriage. We are both Christians, and have always been very active in our church body. In 2004 my husband began to abuse alcohol and travel frequently for business. His 7 year affair history is as follows: '07-'09, two and a half year emotional/physical affair. '10 -'11, one year purely sexual affair. '11-'14 ONS while on business travel. In 2015 he was convicted by by the Holy Spirit, repented of his alcohol abuse and sexual sin, and asked God to forgive him, but it was not until Oct of 2017 that he confessed to me his adultery. We are 7 months out, and we are both working very hard to heal and hopefully one day reconcile. He especially is working very hard to help me heal, and delve into his issues for answers and healing. I could not ask for more, but I'm still in such pain from the betrayal, the emotional abuse, and grieving the loss of what I thought was my life during those 7 years. Is this just a lot to process or am I hopelessly stuck? I know that God is faithful to complete a good work in him and me, but God allows for divorce where adultery is concerned. Is his betrayal just too much for anyone to overcome, or is there truly hope?



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