How Does the Betrayed Regain Self-Confidence After Infidelity? Part 1

Today Samuel answers one of the most asked questions from betrayed spouses about regaining confidence after infidelity.

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Just some points

I just wanted to add some points or thoughts on this blog. I have listened to it several times because this is were I am struggling so terribly in my recovery. Every area you mentioned was so on point for me, especially about childhood pain and trauma. OMYWORD, did discovery open a Pandora's box of issues from the past. And discovery DESTROYED every thing in my self esteem and my self confidence. But one note I did want to mention. The start of the blog you talk about how we (most everyone does this) unfairly judge our self worth by the way our spouse sees us. And I am guilty, maybe I did value that a little to much. But I think we are suppose to take some of our value out of how our spouses see us. I felt empowered by the thought that my husband valued me enough and thought I was the most special person he ever dated that I was the one he wanted as his wife and the mother of his children. I trusted him because he knew my flaws and loved me in spite of them. So discovering my value to him was not as highly regarded as his value to me has been very hard to accept and reeked havoc on how I feel in regards to my self worth.
I hoping the next blog expands on that a little more and I am praying that God guides you as you bring these messages, that each area mentioned is explored, and you are able to offer some instruction on how to overcome or counter act these issues. It is not how I feel about my husband that is the stumbling block to recovery now. It is how I feel about myself.

I think this is a very needed discussion and I hate that there are not more comments.
I am waiting on the next blog like a child waiting for Santa.