Q&A How Do I Cope with My Own Issues of Needing to Feel Understood by My Husband as the Wayward Spouse?

I dealt with severe childhood sexual abuse from 3-7 years old. My mother essentially sold me off to get drugs and then after my dad divorced her when I was 7, she kidnapped me for 2 days and continues to stalk me to this day. I know that I have a lot of work to do in my own healing and I am seeing a therapist who specializes in affair recovery and childhood abuse. My husband and I went to EMS Weekend and both did Harboring Hope & Hope for Healing. We have hit a wall in recovery and I’m have a lot of trauma reactions like abandonment and this primal need to feel understood by him. Nothing I can do satisfies this primal need to have to feel understood by him and I know it stems from my childhood and not feeling understood or heard. I’m tired of feeling like healing is about me sometimes and want to move forward. How do I cope with my own issues of needing to feel understood by my husband as the wayward spouse?