Q&A How Do I Deal with Constant Relapse?

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My husband tells me I expect perfection. Just about every other week he has viewed porn or is searching females online for sexual gratification. This isn’t okay with me. He knows it hurts me, he says he is sorry in an angry way, expects me to instantly be okay, and then the following week we are going through the same thing. I feel crazy. I am considering divorcing him. He is a wonderful man with many great qualities but this aspect of our life is wrecking me and our whole family. I don’t want to be married to a sex addict. I don’t see any hope. I feel if I stay this will be how I have to live the rest of my life, with fake I’m sorrys and continual relapse. He says that he is safe, that I don’t appreciate how hard he is trying and he doesn’t understand why I don’t trust him. He says relapse is just part of addiction and that I’m expecting perfection. I don’t believe this is true. I have told him I am not angry when he struggles with temptation. I am angry when he acts on it and that is not requiring perfection. Am I off in my thinking? Is what he is doing acceptable and I need to accept this?



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