I had an emotional affair which did not involve sexual intimacy and that felt like limerence. The coursework implies that limerence lasts no more than 3 years; however the limerence I felt for my affair partner lasted for 18 years. I have cut off all contact with my affair partner and I'm indifferent toward her at this point. I've gone cold turkey and I never want to be in that position again. As I look back on that relationship I see it as an addiction. My affair partner was toxic for me and my marriage. My wife has extreme fear that I will become obsessively addicted to another woman in the future. What type of healing and recovery do I need to seek out to lessen her fears?