Key Ingredients to the Life of an Unfaithful Spouse

Samuel shares essential and necessary principles of safety for the unfaithful.

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Disengaged Heart

This is exactly what I've been feeling lately. All the Key Ingredients you talked about are on point for me. This definitely helped me better understand why I'm feeling the panic inside so much. At first I just thought I was being impatient or not appreciating what he’s done thus far, but this video nailed it on the head. Intentionality and consistency are mostly causing me to feel my H’s disengaged heart that you mentioned. *If the unfaithful spouse really knew what he was supposed to be doing then he would know what it would do to the heart of the betrayed spouse and he would want to do it, so the fact that he’s not doing it says to the betrayed “uh-oh, not safe”.* This statement was under the Teachable section but I think it speaks to the heart of the message I receive when these principles are not followed. These really are vital principles. They reveal to me whether or not my UH is sincere in wanting to recover and build a thriving marriage or just remain status quo.

Thank you,
Hurting Spouse

disengaged spouse

My spouse has made limited effort to have accountability. The two guys he was meeting with occasionally are extremely busy and unavailable most of the time. Unfortunately we moved to this community and found it is very difficult to engage in close relationships. People smile but rarely reach out and welcome others. We have tried to reach out ourselves, but people do not reciprocate so this makes it very difficult to find others who we can trust with our story and have accountability. We do want him to build relationships but trusting doesn't come easily, especially in a community that is so closed off.