Q&A How do we Cope with the Ashley Madison Blackmail News?

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I am not sure how to address this. It really isn't a question, but more of a topic that I would like to see addressed. My husband found his AP's on a popular website promoting affairs for married people. I am not going to name it, but I'm sure the name is known by you. My husband was introduced to that website by a segment on 60 minutes three and a half years ago. He said it wasn't a flattering segment, but he was on the site immediately and in bed with his first AP within a couple of weeks. This was after being faithful for 16 years. He had also been faithful to his first wife for 9 years. That website is splashed all over the news this morning. It has been hacked. There is a threat of names and personal information being leaked. I have been triggered in a major way. First by the placing me back to discovery of his association with this site. Then, by all the advertising they are getting by it being all over the news, talk shows and talk radio. How many thousands more lives will be shattered by their spouses discovering this "glamorous" website? And last by the thought that his identity could be released. I have suffered much shame and humiliation even though only a handful of people know about his affairs. I am petrified for his affairs to become public knowledge. Our children don't even know. I am sad, resentful, angry and scared. Do you have any advice on how to cope with this news?



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