Q&A How Do We Recover When We Have a Hard Time Communicating?

My husband had an affair a year and a half ago with my then best friend. She used everything that I talked to her about against me to truly hurt me. That was her entire purpose. Often she would say to me things like, how I wish I could have her nose, her body, etc. at the time I felt bad for her because I knew this was a sign of her own insecurities. I knew that I was not tiny, I used to be before I had to take medicine for anxiety, but, I always felt quite confident in the person I was at the time. She would say things like she looked like a boy, I would help build her up because I thought she could use it. I really tried to be the friend she needed. My husband also fell for the fake, she ended up being. But during the time of his affair with her, I noticed some strong affection that I felt he never gave me. That’s when I started the suspicion. Jealousy ensued, I am wondering that when I bring up his lack of affection towards me, he gets angry. I feel broken all over again. What can be done? I don’t feel like he desires me near as much as he desired her. He never initiates sex with me either. We are in week 4 of EMSO and wondering how I am to handle this.