Q&A Is It Beneficial to Allow Your Mate to Read Your Journal?

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As someone who has kept a personal journal for the past 28 years and I'm now in my 40's, I have difficulty understanding or believing when you say that what is in our journals isn't true. I journal about my daily life experiences, my kids, my husband, my feelings, my struggles, my thoughts and ideas. How are those things not true or real? I've been considering letting my husband read some of the journaling I did during my emotional affair because I think it's very obvious now that I look back on it to see how at war I was with myself. I DID consider my husband, I DID know I was feeling things I shouldn't be feeling for someone else, and yet I kept up the contact. The spiral into the emotional affair, and then the fog and addiction part, are very evident in my journal entries. If nothing in our journaling is truth, then what about when I would journal about falling in love with my husband 20 years ago, or knowing he was "the one", etc? Were those feelings not real? Is it never beneficial to allow our spouse a glimpse into our minds through our personal journal entries? Especially when we are able to see it through the new lens of AR and everything that we have learned in EMSO?



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