Q&A My Spouse Is Not Taking Personal Responsibility and May Be a Sex Addict. I Feel Like Giving Up, Should I?

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My husband said his physical affairs started 9 months ago. I feel like we are not in the norm of other couples in our situation. He deliberately went online seeking married women to seek affairs with. His was not an acquaintance or friend. He has admitted to some pornography. He said his first affair lasted 2 weeks and was purely sexual in nature. Again using the online sight, he found another affair partner who was married but she was seeking a divorce. His affair turned into a limerent affair (lasted 6 months and was caught in a restaurant by family) and his affair partner was very persistent as well. My husband claimed he loved her and could not leave her. He said his plan was to divorce me and move on in life with her. Even the night he was caught, he did not come home but spent the evening with her. But while she was gone for a week, I happened to stumble on a text on his phone where he was seeking out another woman on Craigslist. When I confronted him about it he said it was nothing and that he was just curious. He has also since told me that he doesn't know what it means to be broken. And he is harboring a lot of resentment and anger toward me for my failure in the marriage and not really looking at himself. I have concerns that there are some issues of addiction here. What are the statistics of a spouse having another affair? Particularly if he has quit seeing his counselor, accountability partners, etc. I do not like the thought of divorce but I know I cannot do this again. I am devastated. I am thinking the best thing is to just walk away...



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