Q&A Should I Be Concerned about My Mates Recovery Journey?

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We are 6 months post last D-Day, and 3 months post EMSO. My husband had 19 emotional and physical affairs during our 5 year marriage and then started seeing an addiction therapist for this as well as for substance addictions. He really seems like a changed person, he treats me much better than ever before and is much more committed to the marriage than ever before. But he is not doing everything that we agreed on. For example, he is rarely ever attending SLAA meetings, barely working with his sponsor, rarely ever doing "check ins" with me, and not really engaging much with Married For Life material. Whenever I want to talk, he listens and reassures. He lets me check his phone and email when I ask, but doesn't volunteer any information himself. He rarely ever brings up anything on his own. He still goes to the addiction therapist once a week, but that's about it. Should I be concerned? I've kind of stopped nagging him at this point because I saw on Samuel's YouTube video that it's better to stop chasing your spouse into recovery. But I'm not sure what to do. I'm not suffering terribly over it, but should I be worried more?



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