It has been 9 months since discovery of a 3.5 year affair with his co-worker. Since discovery I found out he has lied about seeing and communicating with her at least twice. We have two young kids and he is struggling with leaving me for his affair partner versus trying to "die to himself" by staying in the marriage so the kids will have stability and also because it is the "right thing to do". My question is, should I be quiet and let him work it out with God while he stays home with us or should I enforce my boundary which is no communication with the affair partner while in this house or else leave the house and separate?