Q&A Should We Try to Find New Therapist?

To watch the video please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.
To watch the video, please purchase a subscription to the Recovery Library.
Gain unlimited access to over 1,800 articles and expert Q&A videos.
Already a Recovery Library member? Log in to listen to the full recording.


My husband and I are in week 3 of EMS Online and I completed Harboring Hope. We’ve been married 37 years. The first D-Day of a 4 year emotional and sexual affair was 7/15/20. I found evidence he could no longer deny and the 2nd D-Day was 1/23/21 of an emotional, short affair that happened 25 years ago. I suspected, he kept denying. I was seeing a therapist before D-Day. She helped me with some other trauma I experienced. He started seeing her too and then together as a couple. We then felt we needed our own therapy again. My therapist had my husband go to a new therapist that is under her in the same office. My therapist started telling me that her 1st husband cheated on her and there is no way she could stay with someone that did that to her. She keeps saying things that makes me feel like I’m foolish for even trying to make this work. My husband told me the new therapist prays with him, which is good; but she holds his hands to do so. I am afraid that he will end up creating a bond with her and as a possible sex addict, this isn’t a good idea. Am I crazy for thinking this way? Should we try to find new therapist?



RL_Media Type: 

What type of affair was it?

Our free Affair Analyzer provides you with insights about your unique situation and gives you a personalized plan of action.
Take the Affair Analyzer

Free Surviving Infidelity Bootcamp

Our experts designed this step-by-step guide to help you survive infidelity. Be intentional with your healing with this free 7-day bootcamp.
I would highly recommend giving this a try.
-D, Texas