Q&A At what Point do I Move on?

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Hi Rick

My wife and I have been through multiple D-days since her affair 18 months ago. It has been a long slow bleed of trickle truths and outright dishonesty. She has made many changes since discovery but one difficult area remains. Last night I pleaded with her to finally tell me everything about what she had so I wouldn't have to keep asking "is there anything else I don't know?" and so that we could start from ground zero and just get on with building our relationship on truths instead of lies as recommended by EMS Online. At the end of what I thought was an intimate night of honesty, where she said "that's it, now you know the whole truth," I realized she had told me another major lie. I feel done. I no longer have any hope that she has the ability to be honest. I still love her and want to keep our children from harm, but I feel ready to accept that she has a twisted relationship with the truth and I need a relationship where honesty is highly valued. She swears, once again, that she is sorry and will get it right. I just don't believe anything she says anymore. At what point is it the prudent and safe thing to love her and accept her but move on in my life?



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