It’s been over a year since D-Day and my husband still doesn’t get the pain he has caused me. We recently started EMS Online and this is the first type of recovery effort we have engaged in and we are having an extremely difficult time getting through the exercises without fighting. He continues to make things worse by blaming me, telling me I’m controlling, being defensive, telling me we should get divorced and bringing up my past marriage instead of dealing the affair. I’m the one who signed us up for this workshop because I’m sick of feeling stuck and I want to be able to recover from the pain over his affair. I feel like things are getting worse. We both signed the contract but he’s already broken it and it’s only week 1. I already have strong feelings of hate for him because of his affair. This process seems to be making me hate him more because I feel like he continues not to get it and it’s a huge barrier. What steps can I take so I can move on, despite him not getting it, so I can heal?