Q&A Why Is My Wayward Spouse Having Trouble Facing This?

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We are 4 years from our first D-Day and now 2 years from the second. 16 years married with 2 children. We completed EMS online 3 months ago and now in week 7 of Married for life but I still feel little connection or feelings for my unfaithful husband despite his efforts to change. I am grateful for the changes that have occurred in our marriage as I believe change would never have been possible without his affair. I am working on myself but I continue to feel deep pain and anger when I have asked him so often to check in with me each day to see how I am feeling and commit to watching Samuel's blogs weekly. He does this inconsistently and says it is confronting for him. Why is he still having so much trouble facing it? I am disturbed by our poor connection and I can feel myself checking out of this relationship. Even though he says he will do anything, he admits he could do more which hurts me and does little to build my trust in him. I am scared I do not have the staying power yet I believe God can transform our marriage into something beyond my imagination. AR says by 2 years we should be in a much better place but I continue to grieve all that we have lost as we had such a loving connection before he began his affair.



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