Couples often ask: "When should we stop talking about this?" For the unfaithful spouse, the question can be rooted in confusion and impatience as they're emotionally exhausted from having to relive the pain of their betrayal. For the betrayed spouse, the question can be rooted in a desire to know they...
The frustration. The agitation. The internal scream from wayward spouses: Please, God, will they ever stop asking these damn questions? You're not wrong, you probably have answered that question before. Maybe 19 times to be exact....
Have you ever wanted to fix something so badly that you'd trade anything to figure out how to undo the damage? Those who have been caught in an affair know what this place feels like.
When their affair or addiction is discovered, the pain and shock on the betrayed mate's face and the sound of their voice –...
In the third grade, I was placed in leg braces. For the first time in my young life, I felt different—isolated, set apart, and alone. The worst part of my new reality came each day at recess with the dreaded game of kickball. Mrs. Anderson would appoint team captains who would take turns selecting team members. I vividly...
What does it mean to forgive yourself—especially in the wake of infidelity? Is self-forgiveness only for the wayward spouse, or is it an assignment for all of us? If you'd asked me that question before Discovery Day (D-Day), I would've said without hesitation: "Self-forgiveness? That's on the unfaithful...
It's hard to escape it: cheating, affairs, and broken trust seem to be everywhere. Infidelity provides an endless source of drama for Hollywood filmmakers. But for those who've lived through it, a constant reminder of their deepest wounds does not feel like entertainment!
It seems to be a...
If you're reading this, you likely understand the immense pain and confusion that secrets of infidelity bring. At Affair Recovery, we know that navigating the aftermath of betrayal is one of the hardest journeys a couple can face. One of the most challenging, yet critical, steps on the path to healing is...
Do you know the number one question couples ask in recovery?
I'll let you know in a moment, but first I want to share with you a story. When my middle daughter was in high school, she decided to be a cheerleader. I was fine with it; what type of trouble could she get into leading cheers, right?
I...
Have you ever wondered: Why can't I just get over this? Do you feel like you're constantly re-living the betrayal, even when you don't want to? Intrusive thoughts keep coming back and won't seem to go away. One minute you are ready to cut ties and move on, the next you're ready to fight for your relationship and work it out. Later...
Who should you tell about the infidelity? Who shouldn't you? Why or why not?
This topic comes up at least once a week when I'm speaking with people just like you.
Some people will rush out and tell everyone and their mother, while others suffer in silence, afraid to tell a single soul....
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