Samuel shares encouragement and perspective for those who are trying to heal.
"Wondering if I will come to a happy place in surrender to self-care. Surrender to me. Myself. And I. Self-talk, positive affirmations of my worth. It's my time now. My season of me. I've given and given and given. No time for guilt over self-care anymore. Over rediscovering who I was…who I am apart from my spouse. I really am still me. How wonderful that she, the little girl inside, has not been extinguished?
Even through the incredible trauma of discovery, lies and deception—I am still inside. Inside my heart I am still that young girl who loved the outdoors, the simple joy of natural surroundings ...and just being.
I want to just be. I long to just be me.
Before my time is up." – A Betrayed Wife
What is this inner child work of which they speak? For those who have...
Samuel discusses a toxic struggle both unfaithful and betrayed spouses fall into.
Samuel shares a humorous but poignant story about shame and self hatred.
Samuel discusses tools to help the unfaithful and betrayed spouse heal despite fear of uncertainty.
Samuel shares a common mistake he would often make with Samantha that kept them stuck.
These are words that I have had to unlearn and relearn—words that I thought I knew, but now realize I misunderstood for most of my life. Now, they actually mean something to me.
Growing up, I would attend church with my mom and siblings. I had just enough of a smattering of church "sayings" and knowledge about the Bible to become familiar with them. But honestly, there was far more I did not understand than what I did understand. Most of the time, when I went to church as a kid, I always had a sense I was in trouble or "doing it wrong." I never felt a sense of belonging, and I remember desperately wanting to believe everything I was learning was true, but not understanding how it could be true.
I would see a picture on the wall of this Jesus, wearing a white robe and surrounded by sheep, and I...
Samuel shares tips on battling depression after disclosure of infidelity or addiction.
Samuel interviews Rob about his life before, during, and after his wife's infidelity.
Before what we in the infidelity community call "D-day," my life was full—full of gratitude, challenges, and mostly good. My life was nowhere near perfect—punctuated with the losses one experiences when we are lucky enough to live long enough. I had lived a largely intact existence blessed with friends, a beautiful place to call home, and good food on my table.
As a function of my positive, benefit-of-the-doubt attitude, I'd taken difficulties in stride. I mostly found solutions or learned to live with, and even celebrate reality.
And then came D-day.
Yes, I was aware of my unfaithful husband's (UH) tendencies to procrastinate, to not follow through, to leave me to fill in the gaps. Yes, I knew he was, at times, uncomfortably focused...
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