Samuel shares tips on battling depression after disclosure of infidelity or addiction.
Samuel interviews Rob about his life before, during, and after his wife's infidelity.
Before what we in the infidelity community call "D-day," my life was full—full of gratitude, challenges, and mostly good. My life was nowhere near perfect—punctuated with the losses one experiences when we are lucky enough to live long enough. I had lived a largely intact existence blessed with friends, a beautiful place to call home, and good food on my table.
As a function of my positive, benefit-of-the-doubt attitude, I'd taken difficulties in stride. I mostly found solutions or learned to live with, and even celebrate reality.
And then came D-day.
Yes, I was aware of my unfaithful husband's (UH) tendencies to procrastinate, to not follow through, to leave me to fill in the gaps. Yes, I knew he was, at times, uncomfortably focused...
This is a question that almost all of us have asked or heard at some point during recovery from infidelity. It might have been screamed in anger, or muttered in a barely audible cry of exasperation. And it is a question we often hear over and over again, "How could you?" It is a good question, and it lies at the heart and sum of all of the pain created when people like me have affairs. It is as if we look to the heavens and we cry out in our pain, a guttural "why?"
While this is an important question, there is rarely an answer that satisfies the need to understand this type of pain.
After the aftermath of my own infidelity came out, my husband did not sleep for months. He lost over twenty pounds. He threw himself into work and disassociated from the world. He did not tell anyone and he lost any resemblance...
Samuel interviews Melanie, an unfaithful female spouse, about her journey of unfaithfulness and restoration.
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Each week we're flooded with emails from those in crisis asking how to forget the affair partner. I hear statements like:
"Rick, it's like a drug. I want to be free, but I just don't know how." "I can't...
Samuel discusses doing hard things in repair work.
To forgive somebody is to say one way or another "You have done something unspeakable, and by all rights I should call it quits between us. Both my pride and my principles demand no less. However, although I make no guarantees that I will be able to forget what you have done, and though we will both carry the scars for life, I refuse to let it stand between us. One day, I still hope we can be friends".
This is one of my favorite definitions of forgiveness.
I don't know about you, but I don't think there is anything easy about forgiveness.
Neither the betrayed or unfaithful spouse can get very far into the recovery process without having to confront...
Samuel shares thoughts on why we would rather run from our pain than heal from it.
Part 1: Reasons 1-10 Part 2: Reasons 11-20 Part 3: Reasons 21-31
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My staff and I have been inundated with positive feedback regarding our three part series: 31 Reasons to Stop an Affair. I'd like to thank each and every one of you that took time to...
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