Q&A Am I Being Emotionally Abused since His Affair?

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My husband's 1 year affair with his co-worker went on right before my eyes. We had many discussions/fights regarding their relationship which he characterized as "just friends." Even though he saw me extremely upset many times and even once hospitalized due to stress, he still continued the relationship while denying it was an affair. After hiring a PI he finally couldn't deny it. D-Day was 10/16. At that point I felt less stressful than I had in months. The affair ended 01/17 and we began trying to rebuild 02/17. Since then we have had several setbacks. He still works with his AP, promised to retire but hasn't, and has also promised to have minimal contact with her in the meantime. However I have found out several times that's not exactly true which results in highly emotional discussions. Again he sees how upsetting this is to me but can't fully detach from her. I feel like I'm in the same place I was last year emotionally, upset stomach and filled with anxiety. I would characterize what I went through last year as emotional abuse. Does his continued behavior now constitute emotional abuse? How would you define that? We have been seeing a therapist since 02/17 and I am currently enrolled in HH.



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