His/Hers Recovery: Are there multiple methods? He'd rather go on like this never happened (never shaming or accusatory, or suggesting I "get over it") but says he's regretful... Not just that he was caught, but that this ever happened. By "this," I mean his 2-ish yearlong affair with a coworker, that he had my kids around, put her dog on our vet account, said he "loved" her, and that they'd get married one day. I agree, a clean slate would be nice, as long as we're both committed to being new/better versions of ourselves. That being said, I feel the work on my end is MUCH harder and MORE painful! He's starting a Christian men’s accountability group, whose main theme is Prov. 27:17, iron sharpening iron, and I'm sure a focus on infidelity. And I'm committed to asking the Lord to take captive those ever present, intrusive thoughts. We still attend counseling, and have a Christian couples retreat scheduled for end of March. (It's lower key than an intensive.) I had been thinking we were "doomed" if he didn't do "Hope for Healing" and/or EMSO. I guess I'm asking if these other steps seem "sufficient?" And YIKES, our 15 year anniversary is in 3 weeks, on 2/9. Prayers appreciated!! Thanks!