Q&A Can You Help Me Understand My Ex-husband's Motive?

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I need a little help understanding my ex-husbands potential motive. We divorced Nov. 2019. D-Day was Oct. 2018. His affair partner is 21 years younger he still has contact. He took Hope for Healing the week after we were divorced. He constantly acted out when I lived in town. A month ago I moved 200 miles away to start my new life working on codependent recovery. Since he moved out in April 2019 he Often would call and cries or text how horrible he is. Since my move his emotions have resulted to devastate. A week ago the call was he wishes he would of come home, says he needs to come home. We talk at length about how unsafe he is, and needs to want to be monogamous and willing to disclose how sick his secrets really are. I know the affair partner is not the first and definitely not his only. He still voluntarily goes to see our marriage counselor weekly since I moved away. I don’t understand this behavior. Why does he call me in his dark depressing times wanting us back then he goes ghost for days then I’ll get occasional misc. text usually about faith. What’s his motive? Do you think he really wants us back? Or is this just a sick game narcissistic sociopath’s play? I have what is called detached contact. I’m not agonized by his cherry bombs like I used to be. Should I just stop responding? I would like to hope he could change and we could reconcile. But this is a pattern that has been ongoing since he moved out April 2019. Do you think he is safe?



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