I have a further question about disclosure – My husband won't disclose the AP's details to me, saying he's scared of what I might do if I have the details. He said recently that the thing that is hardest for him is to see what this has caused me. He also said he wants to work it out and stay with me. I told him it's important for me to see he prioritizes me over her, and is willing to put it behind, that I feel he's protecting her, keeping me behind their glass. And worse – maybe keeping an option of returning to her. The truth is that I actually do have her details – I know her name and address because my detective followed her after finding both of them together. I never used it, or have the intention of using it. But I just want HIM to be willing to share it with me and trust me. Am I exposing my husband when I talk to a close friend about us? Am I opening a one side glass window? Is it somewhat a betrayal as well? Of course I am not sleeping with my friend.