Q&A Am I Being to Harsh with My Wayward Husband?

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My husband is a recovering sex addict, he had been involved with numerous hookers prior to discovery. This past weekend, we were at our daughter’s softball game, I found him checking out a teen in a very inappropriate way for way too often, and way too long each time. He is a 52 years old man and this teen has her Dad with her. I felt extremely humiliated and disrespected. When I confronted him, he accused me of being too sensitive and stated that he is just being a man admiring an attractive person. He said he thought the teen is a young woman about 25 years old and no one notices he is checking her out so often. He said he doesn’t has lustful thoughts on her. He did admit that his behavior is disrespectful to me. Is he so delusional that he doesn’t even realize his behavior is so obviously to people around him and he can’t even see that she’s a teen who is with her family seating behind her. Is this his subconscious trying to justify his disturbing behavior? We have a 16 years old girl at home and his behavior worry me and it also indicate a general disrespect for woman in general. Or am I being sensitive like he said? I felt humiliated and disrespected especially after what we’ve been through, I considered putting a boundary on this by not refusing to be with him in public. Am I being too harsh on him?



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